Tuesday, 3 June 2014

IWSG-Insecure Writer's Support Group for June 2014


 

Anna Nordeman







 

Thanks to Alex J Cavanaugh for starting Insecure Writer's Support Group.


This is my fourteenth post for IWSG.

My daughter, Elisabet, on her tenth birthday, May 12th.


















I could not participate in IWSG in May. For my June edition of IWSG I would like to mention a few milestones. First, my daughter, Elisabet, turned ten years old on May 12th.

She had a quiet party at my former husband's house, her father. Elisabet loves fashion, jewellery, clothing and make-up. I want her to feel pretty and be able to use a little make-up, because it's fun. But at the same time I am trying to make her limit herself to that which can be washed off. I want her to value her natural beauty and not spoil it.

Elisabet making funny faces by her cake
  












 














After three years, I am starting to recover emotionally from my divorce. But I still don't have much time to start dating and meet eligible men. Frankly, the idea of meeting new, strange men scares me. Most of my time is spent solving problems - big and small. I also have my children to think about. They still need my help.




Elisabet blowing out her birthday candles





















My cats have been a huge problem for me especially this latest year. But I am finally seeing an end to it. I have found homes for all of my cats except for one, Mathilda, who was missing a whole month.

Mathilda, together with her daughter, Rosetta, was sold to a family in the neighbouring town of Linköping (where I go to the university), but the buyer soon regretted her purchase and asked to return them. Of course, I would take them back, for the sake of the cats. But before I could fetch them, the cats jumped out of a bedroom window and ran away. This happened at six am on Saturday April 26th. If I hadn't felt so ill from a sinus infection, I would have taken the train directly to help look for them. But I was in no shape to do anything. So I just hoped for the best (which I don't usually do).


Rosetta and her mother, Mathilda.










After two days, Rosetta returned to this family, alone. Her mother, Mathilda was nowhere to be found. I took the train and then the bus to retrieve Rosetta and found a permanent home for her with a family living in the smaller town of Söderköping. I was finally cat-less and could start working on cleaning my home and ridding it from cat hair.

I had resigned myself to the idea that I would probably never see Mathilda again. She ran away in the suburb of a strange city, from people she never had time to get to know. What were her chances of survival? An indoor cat, lost in an area of apartment buildings without trees? Spring had just started to blossom, making it difficult to see a cat hiding in the bushes. 


Mathilda with her normal weight.


 












Trying to think like a cat, my guess was that she would look for an area that was greener, more wooded. I looked at the map and saw a park area near the apartments. Could I find her there?

Mathilda's disappearance was reported to the police as well as to the local animal shelters. But what turned out to be the best course of action was the flyers that I printed from my computer. The woman who had originally bought the cats was very helpful and went around posting them everywhere in the area, on doors to apartment buildings, stores, public bulletin boards and anywhere that it was allowed. 

It took some time, but thanks to our posters, people started recognising Mathilda from my photos. On May 24th I received a phone call from a family who lived just two or three streets away from where she had escaped. But they owned their own house with a garden. Mathilda was seen on their neighbour's back porch. There were trees and bushes and thick undergrowth that a cat might like to hide in, and perhaps catch a mouse or two.

I took a transport carrier and cat-snacks with me on the train and bus. They had telephoned at about five o'clock in the afternoon and were going away, so I would never meet them. I needed to find Mathilda quickly if I was going to get home before the last bus and train. (I did not return to home until ten o'clock that evening.) They said that if I could not get her into the carrier, that I could just leave it there on their patio and they would try to catch her for me and call me when they had her inside their house. But I never had to do that. 

I sat on a low stone wall in their back garden and called out her name. That was all I had to do. I heard a thin little mewling from behind their shed. Suddenly Mathilda appeared on the stone wall. I stayed where I was, kept calling softly to her and offered her snacks. I grabbed her as soon as she came close enough to me and I continued to feed her treats. 


Mathilda on the upper bunk at home on Thursday June 5th, 2014














I held her in my arms and could hear her purr. I don't know if she recognised me then. She may have just been just happy to meet a friendly human being who offered her food. But she made no protest at going into the carrier that I had cushioned with an unwashed blanket that she and the other cats had slept on. Maybe she recognised the scents and felt at home on it.

Mathilda was very thin, I could feel every bone in her spine and her ribs. She looked like a smaller cat, as if she had shrunk from hunger.

I cannot describe my happiness at the moment of finding her. She was thin, but seemed alright. She was just very hungry and lonely. She slept beside me in my bed every night the first week. She just ate and slept. When I first got her home she wandered anxiously through the rooms of the flat, as if she were looking for her daughter, Rosetta. Maybe she was.

There is a possibility that Mathilda will be able to meet Rosetta, again. The family in Söderköping who adopted Rosetta, are planning to take a trip and need a cat-hotel for her for two or three weeks. I hope the two cats will be happy to see each other again. But you never know with cats. 


Rosetta stayed a week with the man who adopted her father, Lars. 

Rosetta sitting between her father and uncle.
My son, Erik, and Rosetta's father, Lars.




















Rosetta made herself at home on this lovely farm, but Lars was afraid of her and hid under the bed whenever she was around. Maybe they would have become reacquainted if she had stayed longer than a week. As you can see in this photo above, they were great friends before they parted ways.


Elisabeth drawing a portrait of Rosetta at Christmas.












Eventually, I will have to find a permanent home for Mathilda. But for now, I just don't have the heart to send her away to a new family before she has had a chance to recover from her month of being lost and alone. I am hoping to find a special family for her, a home from which she will have no desire to leave.



Mathilda lounging on my bed on Thursday June 5th, 2014.

















My apologies for not writing about writing and publishing. I have a secret writing project right now, that I don't want to talk about yet. And then there is the fact that writing demands self-discipline and regular working-hours like office hours. I'll let you know when I have found that kind of a routine. It is one of my goals right now. I know it is essential if I am going to get any serious writing done.


Yours faithfully,
Anna










P.S.
For those who would like to see my list of how-to-write-books, please go here
[If you would like to read my other earlier posts for IWSG, go back to my first post in March 2013 here, in April 2013 here, in May 2013 here, in June here, in July 2013 here, in August 2013  here,  in September 2013  here,  in October 2013 here, in November 2013 here, in December 2013 here, and for January 2014 here, and February 2014 here and March 2014 here, and April 2014 here.]









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6 comments:

Lin said...

WOW! You certainly have a lot going on there!

I can't believe how grown up Elisabet is! And so beautiful! I think all girls love dressing up and playing with make-up at that age. Don't worry--she won't like it as much when she has to pay for it. ;)

So sad about the kitties. I'm just glad that you found Mathilda. I'm sure she remembered you and came for that reason. It was nice of you to go find her and make sure she was safe.

I'm sure it takes a long time to recover from divorce, so you just have to take your time and recover slowly. You have to make sure you and the children are healed before you can move on. Time will tell.

I miss you! Haven't talked to you in a long time. I'm glad you posted so that I could see your beautiful children!

cleemckenzie said...

What a wonderful story! I had to read it all to find out what happened to both of your cats. I think you did do a post about writing, but you did it by showing, not telling.

Stephanie Faris said...

That is such a charming cake...happy birthday to Elisabet!

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D.G. Hudson said...

A lovely post, Anna, I've had dogs and cats, but I bond better with cats. Good for you caring for felines and best of luck with Mathilda.

Happy belated birthday to your daughter! She has a delicate beauty and should be wary of overshadowing that. We had a birthday party for older daughter once where I let them put on makeup, and we added jewelry and scarves, then took a photo for each one to take home and show parents. They loved it. We also painted custom t-shirts at another party (fabric paints).

Nilanjana Bose said...

So glad you found Mathilda unharmed! And I must tell you that my child and yours share their birthday, though mine is a bit older.

This is such a moving post, Anna, thanks for sharing.

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